5 Steps to Choosing the Right Therapist for You

Choosing the right therapist for you may not sound easy, but a few simple steps can help you do this. People are nowadays much more open to discussing their mental health, and open to the ideas of psychotherapy and counselling. “Needing help” is no longer something to hide away as if it was shameful, and there are a variety of issues that therapists can help us overcome. Nevertheless, seeing a therapist is never an easy decision.


Whether your feelings stem from anxiety, depression or maybe bereavement or social media abuse it is through taking this first step you can plan with your therapist to make things change. So, you have decided that the time is right to see a therapist. But who will be the best therapist for you?


There are a few points to note. Firstly, therapy is not a one-size fits all solution. Everyone has different needs, but there are ways to help you in making your choice. Here are a few points to consider, when choosing the right therapist for you.


1.     Determine the type of therapy you need.

a women thinking which therapy she needs

Are you seeking long-term therapy or do you want to concentrate on a specific issue for a shorter period? It’s a good idea to research the different types of therapy, but don’t worry too much, as a good therapist will adapt to suit you.

2. Find a therapist near you.

a man trying to find a therapist

Try to narrow your options a little, and make a short list of therapists nearby who match your own needs. Have a look at the profiles of each therapist and get a brief overview of their approaches. Don’t get bogged down by detail. If distance is not a problem, or perhaps you would prefer counselling via zoom,  look for therapists who offer this option.

3. Find someone you feel comfortable with.

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This is perhaps the single most important factor in your decision in choosing the right therapist for you. You should feel at ease when you are with them, but also you should feel comfortable discussing your issues with this therapist. Before committing to an appointment, it is a good idea to make contact first, have a telephone chat about the issues you would like to talk about, and ask any questions you may have. This will help you to decide if you will likely have a good rapport with this therapist.


Therapy can be challenging and therefore you should feel understood and secure. Over the years, research has confirmed what so many therapists have known intuitively, that the therapeutic relationship itself is essential to the success a patient experiences. Learn More at Psychology today 

4. Does the therapist put your needs first?

a man needing help

Not every therapy style works for everyone, and a good therapist will recognise that. If you feel like something isn’t working out for you, then never be afraid to speak up. A good therapist should welcome challenges along the way and most importantly, be able to adapt to what you need.

5. After the first session, assess how you feel.

a women thinking about how she feels

If you come away feeling unsure, you don’t have to return. You need to ask yourself if you can be open with this person, tell them private things, trust them. Do you like the way they talk and listen to you? Do you think they can help? Even if that particular therapy session was not a success, it can provide a sense of what you will respond better to, which can be incredibly useful.


Counselling and psychotherapy are not just for people with a mental illness. Talking therapies can be useful for anyone to discuss everyday stresses and improve overall quality of life. Learning to trust this process will take time, and be aware that things won’t change overnight. Be patient with yourself too. Take good care of yourself, be kind to yourself and try to not rush the process.


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